296 - The Truth About Feeling Exposed When You Share Your Podcast

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Good morning podcasting Morning
Chat.

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Today is Friday, May 2nd, 2025,
and today we're unpacking the

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weird pressure of sharing your
podcast with people that you

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actually know and why it can
feel harder than posting it for

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total strangers.
So if you're listening live on

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Clubhouse, hit the share button,
bottom left hand side of the

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screen and share it however
Clubhouse lets you.

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And if you're listening via
podcast or YouTube, please share

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this episode with a fellow
podcaster.

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And now give us about 30 seconds
and we'll get things rolling.

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Thanks for being here.
Good morning again podcasting

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morning chat.
Thank you for being here.

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I am your host Mark Ronik and
here on stage with me here on

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Clubhouse we have my Co hosts
Dr. Fay, producer Ashley Feller,

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Amanda Sharp and Sid Meadows.
Glad that you're here for my

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final day before vacation, which
I'm a little giddy about if you

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haven't heard my enthusiasm and
excitement this morning.

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Looking forward to getting away,
looking forward to taking two

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weeks off.
And not trying to diminish my

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other breaks or vacations, but
you know, you can call them

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vacations, but at the same time,
you know they were short trips,

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visiting family, visiting
friends.

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It wasn't what I would consider
an official vacation where you

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get to actually go away
someplace new, maybe get to

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spend some time on a beach,
spend some time visiting new

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culture.
This is what it's all about.

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This is what I am super excited
about.

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I have not been to Europe since
my late 20s.

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That's where half of my family
is from.

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And then since then have really
Mexico would probably be the

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only other country I've actually
been to since.

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So this is going to be a great
one.

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And it's the first time my wife
and I have gone away to Europe

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together and it's been a long
time for her too.

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So we are going to Spain.
We're going to start in Madrid,

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spend a few days there with my
stepson who is studying abroad.

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Then we will fly to Lisbon.
And by the way, it's taken me

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since we decided to go on this
trip.

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It's taken me up until about the
past week to stop saying Libsyn

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because of the hosting platform
that I've known for so many

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years.
I was having the hardest time

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spitting out Lisbon.
But yes, that's where we will

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be.
And then we are going to go to

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Algarve, which is basically the
beaches of Portugal.

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So that we'll we'll spend
probably like 5 days there.

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I cannot wait to unwind.
And admittedly, as much as I

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love doing this show, I think I
could use a little bit of a

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break.
I think I need a recharge.

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It's nothing to do with I it's I
have full love for this

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community, full love for doing
this.

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This is what really genuinely
gets me up in the morning doing

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this show.
And it's time for a little

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break.
Yeah.

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Dr. Good morning.
What did you want to say?

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Good morning.
Just making sure that, number

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one, do you have this REAL ID
thing that they're talking

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about?
I do.

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And OK, and #2 we're very, very
sure that these countries now

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have electricity.
Is that right?

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Yes, yes, we do that Monday
Madrid and a lot of the country

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of Spain lost power
unexpectedly.

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I guess you don't usually
expectedly lose power, but they

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lost power the.
Whole country.

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Just about the whole country and
even into France.

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So that could have been me,
right?

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That if that was one, exactly
one week later, that would have

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been a traveling nightmare for
me.

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So I'm grateful that that
happened.

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I'm grateful that it wasn't a
big deal at the end of the day.

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But yes, I'm good there, and I'm
good with the Real ID thing too.

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So where does this real?
I mean, 'cause I just saw

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something on my feed.
They're having a big community

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picnic here where I live, and
they're saying this is your last

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chance to get the real ID.
Well, I'm not going to go to

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this damn picnic.
Where would I get this ID if I

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need to travel, let's say like
if something bad happens, you

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know the family members who are
in California?

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I mean, where I got it, and that
was probably a year or two ago,

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probably, yeah, was when I was
still in Maryland.

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So maybe almost three years ago,
I got it at the DMV.

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So yeah.
And Sid wants to chime in.

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Let's see what Sid has to say.
Go ahead, Sid.

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Yeah.
D Are you sure you don't have

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it?
I haven't traveled in.

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But when was the last?
Time doesn't matter.

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Doesn't matter, Yeah.
When was the last time you got

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your driver's license?
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Oh yeah, I got.
I have a driver's license.

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No, no, you're not.
You the the driver's license.

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Does it have a star on it?
Oh, I have to check.

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I'll check.
Yeah, 'cause if you if you've

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gotten a license renewed in the
past handful of years, it may be

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very likely you have it.
Oh, oh, thank God.

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OK, Yeah.
There'll be a star in the upper

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right hand corner of your
driver's license and that is a

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REAL ID.
If you don't have it, then you

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have to go to the DMV to get it.
Or maybe they must be doing

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something at your community
event, but you will have to have

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it to travel anywhere in the
United States to get through

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TSA.
Or they're going to, they said

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they're going to do some other
kind of like they'll be some

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kind of delay or something
around it.

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But you got to, you're going to
have to have it.

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So you're going to have to.
Do and by the way, Mike and.

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Now you got me curious, I'm
going to go check my ID right

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now.
Yeah, Mike Short says Real ID is

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for domestic flights.
Where are two guys on a plane

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when we need them.
But it doesn't matter.

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We got Mike here.
It says domestic flights, a

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passport works in lieu of having
one.

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Well, I definitely have my
passport as well.

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We, we, we make.
Sure, the real ID won't get you

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to spend your passport.
Yes, we've got the passport,

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we're good there.
The only thing I wish we had

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was, you know, we have pre the
SA, but I know that does that's

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also just domestic.
So I wish we had that

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international one.
I forget what it's called, but

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we don't.
So clear.

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No.
Yes, clear is 1, but there is

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another one I think through.
Global Entry.

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Yeah, I think that might be it,
yes.

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Yeah.
So there you go, a little travel

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advice for people and tips for
people here on the podcasting

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morning chat.
I promise we will get to some

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podcasting and content related
content in a minute.

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Here's what I want to do.
We are going to get into our

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wins from the week.
We do have the list of what

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people shared last week as far
as their goals that they wanted

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to set for this past week.
So we'll hear if everybody was

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able to do that or what they're
continuing to work on.

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But today I want to 1st dive
into something that I think is

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super real for a lot of us,
especially if you're just

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starting a podcast.
And by the way, we are live on

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YouTube.
That's what this link is here

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that I'm sharing on Clubhouse.
And if you are watching already

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on YouTube, that's those voices
that you're hearing, those

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people that I'm speaking with.
It's coming through Clubhouse,

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so if you'd like to be a part of
the actual conversation and join

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us on stage, I will share a link
in over on YouTube in just a

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moment.
So Dr. came across a post on

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Reddit this morning from a new
podcaster who shared something.

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Like I said, I think a lot of us
have probably felt at some point

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or another.
The person said along the lines

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of I've done all the work,
picked a name, got the gear,

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planned my episodes and now I'm
finally posting teasers.

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But suddenly I feel embarrassed,
especially about people I know

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seeing it.
Are they judging me?

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Making fun of me?
I was excited and now I feel

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kind of exposed.
I'm paraphrasing a bit, but that

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is the sentiment.
That is the message that this

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this person put out on Reddit
and Dr. If you can grab the

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link, put it in the chat so that
people can see what we're

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talking about, that would be
awesome.

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So this fear of being seen, of
finally putting your work out

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there, I think that can for a
lot of us bring up a weird mix

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of excitement, self doubt.
So today, we're going to take

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and talk about that moment, how
to push through the nerves, the

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stage fright, and that little
voice that says, what if they

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think this is stupid, right?
Or what are they going to say

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about me?
So let's get into it.

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I want to start.
Why do you guys think it feels

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scarier to share your podcast
with people, you know, versus

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total strangers?
Yeah.

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Amanda, good morning.
I put this into the same camp as

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I don't want Marcus watching my
Tik Toks.

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I can do a TikTok and put it out
there for the rest of the world.

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But there are certain people
like, oh, it's just so cringy if

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they see it because they know me
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And I'm not saying I'm not
authentic when I'm on my podcast

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or any of my social stuff that
I'm doing, but he knows like me

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inside and out.
And so for him, I just feel like

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there's going to be these
thoughts like, oh, you not

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really like that or you don't
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he knows really every ounce of
my truth, you know what I mean?

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So it's it's and he's never once
said anything bad.

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But if there is just that level,
that difference of somebody who

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knows, you will know if you're
just off a little bit.

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So I think there is that extra
pressure there.

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And for a long time, I didn't
put my Tik Toks on my Facebook

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because there was the people who
knew me in real life and then

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there was the people who didn't.
And there was something so much

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easier about posting it for the
people who didn't know me in

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real life than the people who
knew me in real life.

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So I don't know the psychology
behind it, but even I who very

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open still like struggled with
that up until recently.

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It's so interesting because I
would think like, I feel like I

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know you really well, clearly
not as well as your husband.

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And I feel like I know you so
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And I feel like that's the
Amanda that I, I speak to off of

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TikTok.
And I've got to imagine that he

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feels that same way like that up
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There's my wife doing her thing,
doing the Amanda thing.

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It's funny that we worry about
how it will be perceived by the

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people that know us the most.
Sid, I saw your hand come up.

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Let what say you, Sir?
I had a couple of thoughts about

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this.
So I think it was either Seth

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Godin or Simon Sinek that I
heard say on a podcast that

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imposter syndrome is syndrome is
not real.

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It's just noise in your brain,
right?

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And I know it can be hard to get
over because I've been in that

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same situation.
We all have been in that same

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situation.
We put ourselves out in the

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world, right?
We're fearful of the judgement

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of what people will say.
But when you think about this in

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my, I guess it's between my
famous words is like, how do we

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reframe this, right?
And rather than reframe and

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thinking of it as I'm being
judged, reframe it to say

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something like, I'm being
celebrated.

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These people are engaging with
my content.

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These people are seeing my
content.

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I'm having an impact on them and
their lives and their business

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and reframe it in a positive
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And you're kind of do that
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The two things that Mel Robbins
says is you let them let them

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judge.
If they're going to let them

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judge, let me keep showing up
and doing, doing what I'm doing

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and putting good out in the
world.

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And then when you walk by that
mirror, high 5 yourself and say

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I'm doing great.
Thank you, Sid.

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And I do feel like the the whole
time you're sharing like that

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resonates with me.
And I think there's this other,

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there's the old side of me that
I think is representing a lot of

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people that say, that's so easy
to say, OK, we're just going to

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reframe it.
And you gave some examples, but

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I still, I still can hear people
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that.
I can't reframe.

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What would you say to that?
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to that is you have to get out
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us know that we individually
each other our own detriment to

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our own success, right?
We got to get out of your own

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way and imposter syndrome is
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success.
And if you creating greatness in

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your in the world and in your
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So it's hard, but you just got
to keep re framing you keep

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reaffirming for yourself that I
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I am good, right?
I can do this.

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I'm making an impact and because
you will stand and just think

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about the people that you know,
Mark, that you've watched derail

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their career and or their life
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being seen or being judged.
It's it is real.

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People do it all the time.
Yeah, I I agree.

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And there when you said that
there are a couple people that

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popped in my head that I won't
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But yes, I I know who those
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I think it's OK if you just have
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I think our thoughts are hard to
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It's the action of not following
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occasionally, I'm still posting
the content I'm just on guard

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for like oh so and so might say
something like that's in my own

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brain, but at least it's not
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what I'm wanting to do.
So I think if you're thinking

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that, that's one thing.
But if you're thinking that and

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then it's preventing you from
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something that needs attention
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Yeah, I agree with you it.
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myself.
As far as when I'm looking to

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post clips from this show, I
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like in the in the sense that
when I'm putting, when I'm

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watching this clip and I'm
determining, is this worthy of

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putting out there?
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It's not strong enough.
The hook isn't very good.

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Or, you know, I'll start
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thinking about how people will

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perceive it or won't perceive it
and we'll just swipe by right.

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And I've been working a lot over
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If something catches my eye, it
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going to put it out there and
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And it's the one, it's the clips
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that I think that are going to
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aren't.
And this week's example of the

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one that I thought was just a
throwaway ended up being the

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most successful one of the week.
The one that I posted this week

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that did really well that I
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out there anyway.
When we had our conversation, we

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were talking about Netflix
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and we got into the whole idea
of binge content and I was

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sharing my strong opinion that I
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good idea as far as putting out
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out in one drop.
I said it's a bad idea and I

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shared why that one on TikTok
for me it's already got a couple

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1000 views.
That's really strong lately for

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me on TikTok.
I've been struggling to get

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views on TikTok and similarly on
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It's got around 2000 views
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Instagram is another story.
I, I'm I, I feel like breaking

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up with Instagram, but that's a
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So yeah, it's sometimes it's
just a matter of put it out

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there, stop judging it, stop
wondering, will this be

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perceived well?
Will this be successful and just

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put it out there.
Wish it luck and move on.

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All right, Mike, coming to you.
Yeah, I figured out the buttons.

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So I can relate to this from a
standpoint, but for me it's a

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little bit different.
It's not necessarily people that

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I know, it's people that I've
known for a long time.

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So when I and I don't really
deal with it too much anymore.

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But I can remember earlier in my
career when I started speaking

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and training, if everybody in
the room was somebody I didn't

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know or somebody that I had met
that I had a some, you know, a

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level of professional reputation
with not a problem.

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But as soon as somebody walked
in and I knew in high school or

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college or something like that,
immediately my brain went to,

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they Remember Me like I was at
18 years old or 20 years old or

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whatever the case is.
And the fear, and I don't even

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really want to call it a fear,
but the level of anxiety I had

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was around kind of being
discovered to be, you know, like

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I was when I was 18 years old,
right?

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And, you know, having somebody
on is going, this guy didn't

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know what he's talking about.
You know, I remember when he did

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this at the bar or whatever the
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So, you know, as my career
progressed and I had spoken in

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front of more and more people
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And as we have all aged, you
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But I can remember feeling that
early in my career particularly.

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Oh yeah, that that I.
That's so relatable.

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I, I know when I was putting out
my old podcast, I would wonder

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what my old friends would think
about it and that they would

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maybe question it.
And now I think about my old

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audience from that podcast who
saw a slightly different side of

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me, you know, because here, you
know, it's a lot about

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empowerment and education around
podcasting and content creation.

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The other show I was just being
a goofball.

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And I hope sometimes I can.
I, I still am a goofball here,

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but, you know, I wonder if that
audience and some of that

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audience has followed me over
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And sometimes I wonder, what are
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Are they thinking I'm just
putting on an act now because

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they're seeing this other side
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me?
It did take a minute for me to

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come to grips with who cares?
And because this is who I am

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now.
And yeah, I was maybe a little

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bit of a different person back
then.

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And we all evolve.
And I have to accept that.

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And so do they.
And if they don't, let them,

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said Dan.
Good morning.

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Good morning.
I love this conversation.

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I and I want to go back to two
things that Sid touched on.

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One was the imposter syndrome
itself and whether or not it is

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such a thing.
I like to refer to the

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definition of imposter, which is
a person who pretends to be

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someone else in order to deceive
others, especially for

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fraudulent gain.
Now, I didn't hear anything

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fraudulent or intentional
deception of other people in any

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of what we're talking about.
So I don't believe in the phrase

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imposter syndrome.
I know why it was created in the

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late 70s.
I know who created it.

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I don't think it should still be
as prominent as it is in today's

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entrepreneurial and creator
world because I don't think any

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of us are intentionally
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Now, that said, the other piece
I wanted to talk about really

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quickly was the reframing,
because it can be difficult to

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simply reframe.
But that ties directly into our

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conversation yesterday and the
reactions when I said that I set

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up in a coffee shop with a sign
that says I'm a coach, let's

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have a conversation.
Not everybody, even the

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extroverts in the room, felt
comfortable with that as a

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starting point.
And that's OK.

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I think to reframe something, it
starts with the smallest single

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step that you can take to create
that habit, to create the

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environment that makes it more
comfortable.

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So start by telling yourself,
first of all, I'm not trying to

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deceive anyone.
And if you feel like you're

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trying to deceive someone, then
maybe consider what is the

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message I'm putting out?
Am I showing up as who I am with

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these people not recognize me?
Is that the fear?

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Whatever it is, change the
language that you're telling

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yourself and then start taking
the small action steps that lead

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to the thing you're trying to
achieve.

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That's what I had to say.
This morning.

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Thank you, Dan, thank you and
thank you for defining the word

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imposter because that has been
something that for whatever

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reason, it bothers me when
people say there's no such thing

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when Sid said, you know, there
are people out there no such

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thing as imposter syndrome or I
don't believe in imposter

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syndrome.
And I sit here thinking, but

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it's real.
There are people who feel like,

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you know, they're doing
something and it's it doesn't

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feel like them, right.
And but really what that comes

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down to is they think other
people will say this is not who

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you are.
That's really what it comes down

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to.
And so I think what I would love

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to do sometime is really figure
out what's the better way to

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name that because it is a thing.
It's just that the the word

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imposter is inappropriate based
on the definition you just

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shared.
So what is that right word?

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Because, again, it is real.
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Billy, good morning.
What did you want to add?

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Good morning, good morning.
I mean, you know what, I think

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we all feel this way when we
first get started a little bit,

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right, Because it's, it's like
riding a bike, like you're not a

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bicycle ride here until you
learn how to ride a bike.

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And so often times when you're
start putting out content or

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whatever, I mean, a new job, you
know, go working a new job for

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somebody and you're like, I suck
at making smoothies.

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I why am I even here?
You know, it's like it's just

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part of the life.
It's like part of the journey.

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And the problem I think most
people have is they just don't

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do it enough.
I feel like an idiot.

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When I started making Amazon
videos, I'm like, man, is this

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what is what am I doing?
Like, is this how I want to make

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content?
Is how I want to make money?

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Like this is stupid.
I had other people telling me I

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was stupid, had other content
creators tell me I was stupid.

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And now I look back and I go,
oh, you know what?

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4000 videos late or almost 4000
videos later in a ton of

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freaking money paying off debt.
Like, my content hit my goals

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and it served its purpose and
still served its purpose.

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And I think that's the big thing
that I will take for the rest of

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my life is like, it might feel
weird at first.

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It definitely felt like taking,
you know, a shower with my socks

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on.
But it served its purpose and

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it's doing what it's designed to
do.

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And I knew that from the
beginning.

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I had that vision.
I had that conviction.

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But everyone around me was
telling me I was an idiot and

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now all those people are asking
me how I'm doing it.

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So that's what I think.
People just don't do it enough

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to feel comfortable doing it.
Yeah, thank you.

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Thank.
Great example, Thank you for

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sharing.
I think you're right.

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I think a lot of this has to do
with putting in the reps, and it

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does feel awkward doing
something different for the

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first time or for several times.
And once you start putting in

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those reps, I mean, even doing
this show, as many years as I've

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been podcasting and I know I've
shared it, so I'll be brief,

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Even when we started doing the
podcasting morning chat a few

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years ago, when I started
hosting it, I felt weird.

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And it took me a while to really
find my groove and to feel more

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comfortable and to feel like
it's almost second nature at

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this point.
And that has helped me shed that

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fear of what would my old
audience think of me.

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Now I don't, it doesn't bother
me anymore.

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By the way, I was working in
ChatGPT explaining how we don't

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like imposter syndrome as a
term.

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And one, one term that that is
striking me here is authenticity

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anxiety.
And it even defines it in a

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quick sentence, captures the
fear of not well, it's not

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defining it.
It's explaining it captures the

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fear of not being truly what
others believe you to be.

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And that's what I was trying to
say a moment ago, right?

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It's not really that we feel
like the imposter, It's that

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we're afraid others are going to
look at us as an imposter.

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So I like that one.
That's when I'm going to hold on

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to for the time being until I
find something else.

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Authenticity anxiety, So.
Ashley put this in the chat that

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she thinks it's rooted in.
This is all rooted in the fear

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00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,600
of success.
And I absolutely agree with

448
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,040
that.
I think there's so much of this

449
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:43,520
that is rooted in fear, whether
it's fear of success or fear of

450
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,920
being judged or fear of haters
coming in or, you know, fear of

451
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,000
being found out.
I mean, I just think there's so

452
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,000
much that could be root
potentially rooted in fear.

453
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,600
And to Dan's point earlier, I
mean, when he talked about

454
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:59,280
putting the sign up, Mark, I
loved your image by the way,

455
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,720
that you put with that, because
the facial expression on that

456
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,760
character is so good.
But I think, you know, I said it

457
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,320
gives me the heebie jeebies even
thinking about that, right?

458
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:14,160
But I think it's possibly rated
in fear, like the fear of doing

459
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:15,640
that.
But then as, as you were talking

460
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,600
to psycho, I think about it like
when people reach out to me and,

461
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:22,400
and give me a blind connection
on LinkedIn and they're in the

462
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:26,320
furniture industry, I
immediately send them a note

463
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:27,840
saying, Hey, it's great to be
connected.

464
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:29,800
I love networking with other
furniture friends.

465
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:32,120
Ask them how they're doing.
And I started a little

466
00:26:32,120 --> 00:26:35,080
conversation with them, which
this is very similar.

467
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,000
Not a lot different than putting
a sign up, right?

468
00:26:37,360 --> 00:26:41,680
And depending on how that
conversation goes, I might put a

469
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,720
link in there for them to
schedule what I call coffee chat

470
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:48,440
with me and to just connect with
me just so that they have a

471
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,840
problem I can help them with or
just networking with people,

472
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:54,360
because you never know what can
happen when you network, when

473
00:26:54,360 --> 00:26:56,000
you network.
I can't talk this morning when

474
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,160
you network with somebody.
So Dan, I'm doing it, but

475
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,320
probably a little bit
differently than a than a coffee

476
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:02,640
shop.
But I do think so much of this

477
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,600
is actually rooted in fear.
And I saw a lot of people had

478
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:05,360
their hand.
Up to you.

479
00:27:05,360 --> 00:27:08,080
Yes, I agree with you, Sid.
And I was thinking that

480
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,360
yesterday too, especially when
you were saying it gives you the

481
00:27:11,360 --> 00:27:13,760
heebie jeebies.
I was thinking, yeah, that it's

482
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,240
probably more fear based than
anything else.

483
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:20,600
Dan, I'm going to let you skip
the line since he was Sid was

484
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,160
calling you out as far as some
of the things you were sharing.

485
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,800
So go ahead.
I appreciate that and I'll be

486
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,000
very brief.
I just wanted to say what Sid

487
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:31,440
just made me think about is
we're all doing the same thing

488
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:35,360
when we put that headline in our
LinkedIn or we put that

489
00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:39,240
information on our website,
you're essentially already doing

490
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,520
the same thing since we started
the conversation with reframing.

491
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,800
There you go.
Yeah, Jackie, good morning.

492
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,760
Go for it.
Hi, good morning everybody.

493
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,600
So we're talking about imposter
syndrome.

494
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,600
I used to be, I used to have
this and everything, but now I'm

495
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,520
learning to just step into what
I'm doing because everybody's

496
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:02,280
new at one point, right?
And it takes a second to kind of

497
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,000
like get into the mindset of
what we're doing.

498
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:10,240
Like even the win I'll share
today is a huge change for me.

499
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:15,400
So just changing your mindset,
it's like almost the fake it

500
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,880
till you make it, you think, but
you're actually doing it.

501
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,760
So it's like, why does it even
happen?

502
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:22,840
I don't know.
This is all just kind of

503
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,400
floating out of me.
But I feel like I've 100% felt

504
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:30,280
that before, even in my
podcasting because I talk about

505
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,480
a lot of mental health issues,
right?

506
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,160
But I'm not a psychologist, I'm
not a life coach.

507
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,400
I'm another mom, right?
It's like talking to a friend,

508
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,800
but it's almost like, whoa, do I
need to stay in my own lane or

509
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:43,680
is this OK to share with the
public?

510
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,440
And then I just can.
I just thought about it and I

511
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,640
was like, screw it.
Like I'm a mom.

512
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,360
If you sat down with me in a
conversation, I'd be saying

513
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,040
these same things.
I'm not recommending certain

514
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,720
things to people.
I'm just telling people how I've

515
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:59,480
done it, how this person's done
it, and it's just a

516
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:03,040
conversation, right?
But it does take you a SEC to

517
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,480
kind of shake off all of those
like I'm not this, I'm not that.

518
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,520
No, you are because you're doing
it.

519
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:12,240
That sounds so simple, but it's
really not when you do it right.

520
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:13,760
Yeah, agreed.
Agreed.

521
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:17,400
And there's something you said
that triggered something for me.

522
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:23,640
You know, people also, they
don't really care what you're

523
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,280
doing.
You know those people that you

524
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:30,280
that are judging you, quote UN
quote, they may judge you.

525
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,720
I'm not saying people don't
judge.

526
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,960
We all judge.
I I believe that at some, some

527
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:39,800
way, somehow all of us judge.
But I think for the most part,

528
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,400
they're judging you for a
minute.

529
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,920
I'm being not literal with that
word, but they're judging you,

530
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,720
you know, maybe seeing
something, maybe thinking or

531
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,840
saying something.
They're not losing no sleep over

532
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:51,680
it.
You are.

533
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:56,480
They're not scrutinizing it.
You are, it may have been a

534
00:29:56,880 --> 00:30:00,440
passing thought in their mind,
like what is Mark doing?

535
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:02,240
What?
Who does he think he is

536
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:06,400
empowering everybody, trying to
be this motivational speaker.

537
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,720
You know, I'm, I'm just making
up judgement as I go here.

538
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:11,640
You know, who does he think he
is?

539
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,680
Right?
They may think that, but they're

540
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,360
more worried about themselves.
They're moving on after that and

541
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:20,720
they're dealing with their own
crap in their own life.

542
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,720
And you're the one that then
takes that.

543
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:27,760
If you if you heard them say it
or saw them say it, you're the

544
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:31,080
one that's then losing the sleep
over your thinking that they're

545
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,240
scrutinizing over it.
But the truth is it's just you

546
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:38,560
who's scrutinizing and it.
And that's helped me to let it

547
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:42,880
go when I'm starting to worry
about what others think.

548
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,640
OK, Amanda.
So I hope everyone can follow

549
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:50,600
what I'm saying when I say this
because it's kind of I struggle

550
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,360
with being humble not in the way
that other people might struggle

551
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:58,000
with humble.
Like I try to be so extremely on

552
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:00,720
the one side of humble that I'm
like, oh, no, no, no, no, I'm

553
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,680
not an influencer.
Like stop.

554
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,480
Like there's something about it.
Like I downplay the significance

555
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:09,840
of what I've done.
And it's because I think I was

556
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,520
raised that you be humble, you
be humble, you be humble without

557
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:18,000
explaining to me that there is a
large line of where you can fall

558
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:22,160
on that humbleness.
So I'm so extreme and that I

559
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:28,040
almost shoot down the attention
of any kind of success where you

560
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:33,200
can still be humble while
embracing and accepting that

561
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:36,520
what you've done is good and
special.

562
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:42,200
Where when I try to like
downplay, am I an influencer?

563
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:46,160
I surely am, so I don't know why
I keep pretending like I'm not.

564
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:49,920
I don't know of anyone I know in
real life who has ever done any

565
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,480
more content creating than I
have.

566
00:31:53,800 --> 00:32:03,640
Well, except for Billy, but so
why can't I say with pride,

567
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,640
because I put in the work I've
put in the reps that I to some

568
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:11,280
degree am an influencer doesn't
meet because the spectrum of

569
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,440
what an influencer is is so
large either, you know, is wow.

570
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:18,400
So I just feel like there's for
me this level of, Oh, you have

571
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,360
to stay humble because I was
like beat in the head to think

572
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:27,360
that growing up without it being
explained to me that you can be

573
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,360
humble and successful at the
same time.

574
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,760
So I'm unpacking that as a 43
year old adult.

575
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,200
Yeah, I so appreciate that
unpacking.

576
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,960
Thank you.
Because what that really what

577
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:42,640
that is, is the whole message of
don't be humble is really, I

578
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:45,200
think what's deep rooted into
that is don't be.

579
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:48,440
You must be humble.
Sorry, you must be humble

580
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:53,120
because people will judge.
Like what really is the message

581
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,320
behind that?
Why are we told to be humble?

582
00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,320
Yeah, who even started that?
Well, I think a lot of religion

583
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,200
has started that.
I mean, I know that there are

584
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:07,040
people that at least culturally
in their religions, they're told

585
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,400
you must, you know, you must
remain humble.

586
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,360
But that judgement seed was
planted early, whether it was

587
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:15,920
religion, family, friends.
I think that when we're kids

588
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,160
that a lot of us hear that and
take that to heart and take that

589
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,080
through adulthood.
And I think that can cause

590
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:25,240
whatever we want to call it,
imposter syndrome, fear of

591
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,200
success, fear of judgement,
etcetera, etcetera.

592
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,280
Yeah, I'm with you, Kate.
Good morning.

593
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,520
Welcome to the stage.
What did you want to add about

594
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:35,760
this whole thing of imposter
syndrome?

595
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,360
Good morning everyone and
Amanda, yes, you rock.

596
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,800
Your content is so fun and
authentic and so much fun to

597
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,960
watch.
So I actually have a little

598
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,160
section in my book about
imposter syndrome.

599
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,240
And when I was doing some
research on it, it showed that

600
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,440
up to 82% of people have dealt
with imposter syndrome in some

601
00:33:56,480 --> 00:34:00,080
way throughout their lives.
And most of the time it's very

602
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:03,960
high achievers, students, people
in the creative field.

603
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,480
And so I always find that to be
very interesting.

604
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,880
It's like the people that are
like you guys, all of the people

605
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,199
in this room that are high
achievers have big dreams going

606
00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:13,360
after stuff.
We are the people that deal with

607
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,760
it the most.
I love listening to those round

608
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:21,040
tables of actors and actresses.
There's always actresses or

609
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,520
actors that will talk about.
How they have?

610
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,280
Imposter syndrome, Renee
Zellweger, I remember she was

611
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:29,560
sharing, you get that feeling
when you get so excited when you

612
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,560
book a new part, but you read
that you reread the screen of

613
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,000
the play or that you reread the
script and you think, Oh my

614
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:37,600
gosh, am I going to be able to
do this?

615
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:39,239
Are they going to fire me on the
1st day?

616
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,480
Like can I actually, can I
actually perform the way that I

617
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,520
need to perform?
And so I just think that this

618
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:49,120
idea of imposter syndrome, we
feel like an imposter when we do

619
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,120
something new, when we're
leaning into growth.

620
00:34:52,159 --> 00:34:54,800
And so it's not necessarily a
bad thing.

621
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:56,840
It's just we haven't maybe done
something that we're striving

622
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,960
for because we're constantly
working towards something

623
00:34:59,960 --> 00:35:02,400
better.
So I think it's not a bad thing.

624
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:05,840
It really just is.
We are growing and knowing that

625
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:07,920
other people are going through
it, but just pushing through and

626
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,800
continuing to do the work and
getting better.

627
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,440
Yeah, thank you, Kate.
Yeah, awesome points.

628
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,880
I and I'm going to keep it
moving just because we also want

629
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:19,600
to get to sharing wins from the
week.

630
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:22,120
So I'm going to try to bite my
tongue moving forward here.

631
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:25,800
I know that I love answering
people when they share, so

632
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:29,120
please forgive me.
And Yvonne, welcome.

633
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,560
What did you want to add?
Good morning.

634
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,120
I'm just going to call it
imposter syndrome, regardless of

635
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,280
like whether or not it's a good
term.

636
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,880
But Oh yeah, the struggle is
real.

637
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:44,600
It's what kept me from starting
my podcast for two years.

638
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:49,080
I had the idea in my head.
I didn't realize that imposter

639
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,160
syndrome was what was holding me
back.

640
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:54,200
I had a whole lot of other
excuses like time and money

641
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:59,720
which were which were valid, but
when I realized that part of the

642
00:35:59,720 --> 00:36:03,520
conversation was like, does the
world need another podcast?

643
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:05,600
Who?
Who would even listen to me?

644
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:10,040
I'm not a psychologist, I don't
have 3 letters after my name,

645
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:13,080
who am I?
I think when we ask ourselves

646
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,720
that who am I to do this
question?

647
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,080
That is classic imposter
syndrome.

648
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:23,400
I felt like I would be an
imposter if I put a mic in front

649
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,640
of me and called myself a
podcaster.

650
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:32,080
And one of the things that freed
me up was Gary, a book by Gary

651
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:33,480
Vee.
I can't remember the name of it

652
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:36,760
right now, but he talked about
just bringing people along your

653
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,600
journey and not not needing to
be an expert.

654
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:46,000
So that gave me freedom to step
into it and say, hey, I'm I'm

655
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,840
not an expert.
This is just me figuring life

656
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:50,840
out.
I'm going to take you along with

657
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:55,280
me and share stories of me and
other people and, and you know,

658
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:59,520
we'll see where this goes.
But I feel like an imposter

659
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,600
every time I put a camera on and
get, get up to make, get on my

660
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:07,840
skates and put something on
Instagram that it always feels

661
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:12,680
cringey to me every single time.
And I think the only thing that

662
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:16,640
keeps me going is that my
mission is bigger than my sense

663
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,960
of shame.
So that's all I have to say

664
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:21,600
about that.
Yeah, yeah.

665
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,320
Oh, I do want to add that whole
that Kate was talking about the

666
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:29,800
actresses and and the people
still feeling, you know, that

667
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,200
sense of imposter syndrome,
you'd never expect it.

668
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:37,160
Why was Sean felt like an
imposter the entire time he was

669
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:41,560
filming?
Oh, and then Cynthia, you, you

670
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:45,480
created one of the blunders.
But to help me here people.

671
00:37:45,720 --> 00:37:46,760
I can't.
I don't know.

672
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:49,000
I wish I could, Princess.
Bride.

673
00:37:49,240 --> 00:37:50,560
Princess Bride?
Yes, Yes.

674
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,800
Princess Bride, every day he,
you know, he was cast.

675
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,040
I don't think he was the first
choice for the role.

676
00:37:56,240 --> 00:38:00,760
And he felt like he was going to
get fired every single day that

677
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,280
he filmed on that set.
And look, look at what he did.

678
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,880
Yeah, yeah.
Great point, Great point.

679
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:11,040
I'm still working, by the way,
on a a new name for imposter

680
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:16,360
syndrome, maybe self identity
syndrome, I don't know.

681
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,200
I really want to come up with
something.

682
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,320
OK, Alexandra, good morning.
What did you want to add to this

683
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:24,080
that?
'D be like a whole dissertation,

684
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,000
but I totally get that.
I've always had that.

685
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:33,040
It's not necessarily imposter
syndrome, it's more of a problem

686
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,960
that are than are them problem
because I project my

687
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:42,440
insecurities onto other people,
but based on stories and legends

688
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,120
of my past self that I've heard
of.

689
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:48,560
When I was first growing up,
before we moved to a different

690
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:52,600
place, I was a very precocious
child.

691
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:56,800
Like my mom taught me how to
read because we were at a church

692
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,560
meeting and I couldn't find
anybody to read to me.

693
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:01,600
Somebody said to me, you know,
we'll go read it yourself.

694
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:02,880
And I said, I don't know how to
read.

695
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:06,120
My mom went out and bought
Hooked on Phoenix the next day.

696
00:39:06,720 --> 00:39:09,360
There's a whole bunch of stories
about me not being afraid to

697
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,720
speak around because that's this
example my mom had set more than

698
00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:17,120
than anything.
But when my dad got assigned to

699
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:23,560
his second pastoral ship, we had
to move to a place where for the

700
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,800
most part, you only saw the
black people on Sunday at

701
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:29,000
church.
The school that I went to was a

702
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,480
kindergarten through 8th grade
school.

703
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:37,840
And I think counting me there
were two, maybe three other like

704
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:39,320
visit.
Like you could tell they were

705
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,160
black just by looking at them
because of the amount of melanin

706
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:45,440
in their skin.
Kids in that school and the

707
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:50,280
first time I had the gall to
question a teacher because I

708
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,880
didn't understand why she wanted
me to do something.

709
00:39:53,240 --> 00:39:57,440
And for the first time in my
life, instead of being praised

710
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,520
for speaking my mind or somebody
just being like, well, This is

711
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:03,520
why I got sent to the
principal's office for

712
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,160
insubordination.
Wow.

713
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:10,040
And I was in second grade and so
that was when I started

714
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:11,640
internalizing.
It's like when nobody wants to

715
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:13,880
hear what I have to say because
they're going to label be this,

716
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:18,480
that or the other.
And when I was in high school, I

717
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:22,000
got my freshman year, I got put
into an honor English class.

718
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,200
And as you guys know, I love to
write.

719
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:27,200
So English was always by jam,
but I of my honors English

720
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:29,920
class, and it wasn't because I
wasn't capable of doing the

721
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:33,440
work, because my teachers, I
can't say how many pet teacher

722
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:38,160
conferences they had with me
that year, kept saying you are

723
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,200
smart, you are good at this.
But the problem was I didn't do

724
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:45,520
the work because a part of me
was just like, I didn't believe

725
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:48,040
that when they said that I was
smart.

726
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,920
So I was like, why bother
trying?

727
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,400
Alexandra is such a powerful
example and an important one to

728
00:40:54,400 --> 00:41:00,280
share too, because I do know
that racism can play a big role

729
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:04,760
in imposter syndrome for people
and I and I really appreciate

730
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,240
you bringing that to light here
this morning.

731
00:41:08,240 --> 00:41:11,560
It's really important to call
out, So thank you and.

732
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:13,320
It was just because I wasn't
the.

733
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:17,080
And The thing is, I wasn't the
only black kid in that AP

734
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:20,160
classes and they were all doing
amazing.

735
00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:23,920
And I, and I know I recognize
now that my teachers were very

736
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,760
supportive, their reasons.
And they were calling my parents

737
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:28,640
and all the times because they
didn't understand why I wasn't

738
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,040
doing the work.
Because when I did do the work,

739
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,160
they were like, you are
fantastic.

740
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:36,160
And I would get A's.
So they never understood why I

741
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,640
didn't.
And I was just like, it didn't

742
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:43,560
matter how many times I got an
AI, still had that voice at the

743
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,840
back of my mind that I'm not
good enough.

744
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:51,040
Thank you, Alexandra for sharing
and as usual, being so open

745
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:56,760
about your journey with us.
I really appreciate you, Janae.

746
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:58,720
Welcome.
I'm going to give you the final

747
00:41:58,720 --> 00:42:02,960
word on this imposter syndrome
topic so that then we can move

748
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:05,360
into sharing some wins from our
week.

749
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,240
Go for it.
Thank you.

750
00:42:07,240 --> 00:42:10,280
Good morning.
A very powerful topic, Alexander

751
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:16,080
knows, really insightful.
And and as to your point, it's

752
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:19,000
somebody pointing you out, don't
do that.

753
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:22,440
That's imposter syndrome.
From what I've been hearing,

754
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,320
it's almost like permission.
We're asking for permission to

755
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,200
do something.
And Yvonne said, why do I need

756
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,040
to do have another podcast?
I don't have all of these

757
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:32,120
things.
We're essentially looking for

758
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,080
permission.
And Yvonne, remember, I don't

759
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,000
know if you remember, the book
you probably read was Gary Vee's

760
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,920
Crushing It because at the end
of that book he says just go

761
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:43,120
document your journey.
I think that was it, yeah.

762
00:42:43,240 --> 00:42:46,240
Right, because that was the same
book that inspired me to start

763
00:42:46,240 --> 00:42:48,520
my podcast.
Which book again?

764
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:52,600
Can you say the title again?
Crushing It by Gary Vaynerchuk

765
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,040
came out in 2018.
OK.

766
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,160
Powerful book.
There's so many examples in that

767
00:42:57,160 --> 00:43:01,960
book of other people taking the
leap, stepping out of their

768
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:07,000
imposter syndrome and finding
the community that encouraged

769
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:10,240
them, inspire them, because
we're all looking for that

770
00:43:10,240 --> 00:43:11,600
permission.
We're all looking for that

771
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,760
encouragement.
And it's OK to do what we want

772
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:18,000
to do.
We don't need to, you know,

773
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:21,920
wallow in our own mind and be
like, no, nobody wants this.

774
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:27,000
No, people want stories.
And we see that from all the

775
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:30,760
people that are writing stories.
And when Mark the book that

776
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:32,440
you've been reading, let them
theory.

777
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:34,040
She's about the same thing,
right?

778
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,080
Just let them think what they're
thinking.

779
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,880
Do what you have to do.
Yep.

780
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,200
Thank you.
Yeah, Thank you, Janae.

781
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,920
And awesome.
Thanks for pulling that, that

782
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,000
book title out.
That's cool.

783
00:43:46,240 --> 00:43:51,320
Kate in the chat just said Mark,
how about Bravery Gap or Oh,

784
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:54,160
Courage Curve?
OK, so she's Kate you're playing

785
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:55,720
along with trying to find a new
name.

786
00:43:55,720 --> 00:43:57,240
I love it.
Yeah.

787
00:43:57,240 --> 00:43:59,640
Maybe.
Maybe I want something.

788
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,840
I want it to be a term that
sticks with people the way that

789
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,320
imposter syndrome stuck with
people.

790
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:07,120
Right.
You hear that term and even if

791
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:10,760
it's for the first time, you
instantly connect with it.

792
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,880
At least that's the way that's
how I see it.

793
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,920
I see so many people instantly
connecting with it, even if it's

794
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:21,520
the first time they've heard it.
False self syndrome.

795
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,640
Could that work?
Maybe.

796
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:26,560
I'm going to think about that.
OK, Great conversation.

797
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,560
Thank you.
And it's one that I know we

798
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,160
could continue to talk about on
and on and on.

799
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:36,400
And I'm sure we will come back
to it again at some point .1

800
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,560
morning.
But for now, I want to move on

801
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:41,280
and talk about our wins from the
week.

802
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:45,080
And some of you last week shared
with us some goals that you had

803
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:46,880
and I have those documented
here.

804
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:51,440
So I might ask you about that
while we are sharing our wins

805
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,000
from the week.
So let's do it.

806
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:56,680
Let's dive in.
If you'd like to share, now's

807
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:58,960
your chance.
If you're listening live on

808
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:03,560
Clubhouse, If you're listening
live on YouTube, I've provided a

809
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:07,160
link to come join us over here
on Clubhouse to be a part of the

810
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:10,280
conversation.
Or you can put your wins from

811
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:14,640
this past week in the chat on
either Clubhouse or YouTube.

812
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:19,280
All right, so let's do it.
I'm want to start with Michael.

813
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,040
Michael, good morning.
Welcome again.

814
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:25,600
And please share any wins from
your past week.

815
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:29,640
And also, Michael, I believe you
did share with us a goal, so

816
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:30,920
I'll check in with you on that
too.

817
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:35,280
Go ahead.
So the wins for the week started

818
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:39,160
working on this new podcast that
I think I had mentioned a while

819
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:43,280
back around the fraternity world
and serving undergraduate

820
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,680
fraternity sorting leaders and
that type of thing.

821
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,720
So we've got a schedule laid out
this week.

822
00:45:48,720 --> 00:45:51,960
I spent some time just really
clearly identifying who the

823
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,920
audience is going to be and what
the transformation I want them

824
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,680
to get from being a listener to
the podcast is going to be.

825
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:03,320
Also had a great opportunity to
participate in a discussion with

826
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:05,960
a group of folks that Junaid
gave this week.

827
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:10,160
It was AQ and A, and Janae did
just a fantastic job with that.

828
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,480
It was exciting to be a part of
that and then I went back and re

829
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:16,640
watch the replay because I was
kind of in and out of the live

830
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,760
version of it.
I was at work and kept having

831
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:22,840
customers come in to buy stuff.
It's so annoying to make money

832
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:24,280
when I'm trying to make money.
I mean.

833
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:29,240
So that's the win for the week
and I put this podcast off for

834
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,800
well over a year now.
There's just been some things

835
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,640
going on in life that are
starting to get settled, getting

836
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:38,600
into a new place this week.
So the goal for this week is

837
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:41,640
just going to be let's get the
equipment out, figure out how

838
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:45,040
I'm going to set it up in the
new space and get ready within

839
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,280
the next couple of weeks to
start recording.

840
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:50,600
And then the podcast should
launch by or around the end of

841
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:52,000
June.
That's the time frame.

842
00:46:52,720 --> 00:46:55,000
Love it.
Congratulations on those wins.

843
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,960
Congratulations for following
through on your goal 'cause I

844
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:01,560
know your goal last week was to
get through the 1st week of this

845
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,320
accelerator program that you're
a part of, the Pat Flynn

846
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:06,720
Accelerator program.
Very cool.

847
00:47:06,720 --> 00:47:09,840
Congratulations, Michael.
Looking forward to hearing more

848
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:14,080
about Old Frat Guy, the podcast
coming soon.

849
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,400
Awesome.
It's going to be fun.

850
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:17,640
Yeah.
And I will absolutely.

851
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:21,680
If you ever want another guest,
happy to be a guest to talk

852
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:25,600
about the old fraternity days.
And yeah, well, I'm happy to do

853
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,400
that.
You are on the list.

854
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:28,240
Awesome.
Cool.

855
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:30,840
Let's keep it going with Dan.
Dan, good morning.

856
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:34,360
Please share a goal and a win
with us today.

857
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,960
Well, let's see, I wasn't here
last Friday so I'll use my win.

858
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:42,360
Was spending Friday and Saturday
with 16 of my new best friends,

859
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:46,560
amazing coaches and speakers
from all over the country and

860
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:49,600
one from Canada.
That was an amazing experience

861
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:53,360
and I'm looking forward to the
launch of that new company and a

862
00:47:53,360 --> 00:48:01,000
goal goal.
I'm starting a sunset intention

863
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:04,320
setting session here locally in
the community as a way to just

864
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:08,440
meet some new people and bring
some people together.

865
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:11,760
For a good purpose.
Love it.

866
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,000
Love it.
Congratulations, Dan.

867
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,320
And yeah, it sounds like that
was a great weekend trip

868
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,160
Sounded.
Yeah, that sounds really cool.

869
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:23,080
I'm excited for you and looking
forward to hearing how your goal

870
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:25,560
goes.
Well, I won't be able to be a

871
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:28,120
part of that conversation next
week, but I will go back and

872
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:31,320
listen to the podcast next week
when you all are carrying the

873
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:33,760
show without me.
Jackie, good morning.

874
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:37,000
Please share your win and a goal
for your upcoming week.

875
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:41,640
Hello everybody, So I think I
might have shared a little bit

876
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,040
this week.
This week felt like 5 weeks.

877
00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:48,680
I became a coach at
Orangetheory.

878
00:48:48,720 --> 00:48:51,320
That is what my biggest win last
Friday.

879
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:54,400
I made it through the process
and I'm now shadowing.

880
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:57,880
I have another win too.
I'm currently at my best

881
00:48:57,880 --> 00:48:59,920
friend's retreat, which Mark,
you know, Nicole.

882
00:48:59,920 --> 00:49:03,760
Oh yeah.
So I'm in Virginia at her

883
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:07,960
retreat and my goal is just to
make the most out of this

884
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:10,800
retreat for me so.
Awesome.

885
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,160
Awesome.
Well, have a blast there.

886
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,080
Say hi to Nicole.
I met Nicole at a meet up Janae

887
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:21,640
and I hosted in DC in December.
Yeah, she was there.

888
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:23,200
So very cool.
Tell her hello.

889
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:27,000
And Yvonne, please share a win
and a goal with us.

890
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:32,560
Dominic Lawson was my guest on
the podcast this week.

891
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:36,400
So that's a win.
I went and and I'm going to

892
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:39,520
throw one more in there.
I went to my first in person

893
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:42,640
roller dance.
Class on Sunday.

894
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:47,560
Scary but so fun.
Oh my gosh, I felt like Bambi on

895
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,320
you know, in the movie trying to
stand up.

896
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:52,800
Anyway, very fun and goal for
the week.

897
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,440
I don't know, can't wrap my head
around that.

898
00:49:55,720 --> 00:49:59,000
Get through it, yeah.
OK, I'll take it to get through

899
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,400
next week.
I'll take it.

900
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:02,640
And congratulations on those
wins.

901
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:05,240
That's awesome.
And I know you completed your

902
00:50:05,240 --> 00:50:08,320
goal from last week, which was
to get signed up for the

903
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:11,800
Empowered Podcasting Conference,
which I know you did and

904
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:14,880
convinced your husband.
That's awesome.

905
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:16,480
Yeah.
Thank you.

906
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,960
Thank you for doing that.
That's a win for me for sure.

907
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:22,680
Alexandra, please share a win
and a goal with us.

908
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:30,560
OK so when is on the personal
side I finally identified a part

909
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:36,080
of the reason why I'm struggling
to like actually get things done

910
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:40,000
and why my mom and I because my
mom and I have had this bone of

911
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:43,920
contention between us about how
she feels like I'm not doing my

912
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:45,960
part.
And I understand why she feels

913
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:50,760
that way, but I was trying to
understand why because I want to

914
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:54,400
do things, but I can't
physically make myself do it

915
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:57,320
most of the time.
And it's something called a

916
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:02,680
dopamine deficiency.
So with the help of my mom and

917
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:07,120
ChatGPT, I've come up with a
reward to your system so that

918
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,520
for every task that I do
complete, I get something.

919
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:15,560
So I actually was able to do
like on Monday when we did it.

920
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:17,880
My mom and I've been fighting
for the last two weeks because I

921
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:21,640
hadn't done the dishwasher.
So I did.

922
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:24,720
I finally loaded the dishwasher
and so when my mom got home from

923
00:51:24,720 --> 00:51:27,720
work, we went to our favorite
ice cream shop and I got ice

924
00:51:27,720 --> 00:51:29,560
cream.
Then nice.

925
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:32,400
I love it that that's one.
That's one for me too.

926
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:36,160
Ice cream is a motivator for me.
And I finished and then I can't

927
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:37,680
remember what my goal last week
was.

928
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:40,040
Mark, can you remind me please?
Yeah, let's see.

929
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:42,480
I think I have it here.
Let's see.

930
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,280
Did did ChatGPT fail me?
I think it did fail me.

931
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:48,400
I don't see it on the list here.
Alexandra, I'll find out for

932
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:50,400
you.
It's OK, I'm going to finish my

933
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:53,200
screenplay today because I have
to have it in by 11:59 PM

934
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:57,400
Eastern Standard Time in order
to keep my table read on

935
00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:00,120
Tuesday.
But for the screenplay that has

936
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,360
yet to be finished but will be
finished, I was talking to

937
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:06,480
someone about it in a room on
Clubhouse last week.

938
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:08,840
It's actually funny because I've
been building this relationship

939
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:10,960
with this person for like the
last six months or something.

940
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:13,000
And their cinematographer also
noticed.

941
00:52:13,720 --> 00:52:18,080
And we were talking about when
it comes to getting things done

942
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:21,560
and hiring your cast and crew.
Like, do you want to work with

943
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:25,640
the person who has the better
professional reputation or the

944
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:28,680
person who has the best personal
reputation?

945
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,400
Like, do you want to work with
the asshole who get shit done or

946
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,720
do you want to work with the
good guy who's willing to learn

947
00:52:33,720 --> 00:52:38,680
and be?
And so I was asking this person

948
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:41,880
who used to work on Key and
Peele, is Jordan Peele, for

949
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,720
example, like a really good
person to work with?

950
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,440
Or is he one of those
egotistical assholes?

951
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:49,840
And he's like, no, he's actually
really cool.

952
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,840
He's like, why do you ask?
And I'm like, well, I'm writing

953
00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:56,800
the script right now that I
think he might like, but I would

954
00:52:56,800 --> 00:53:02,120
prefer to not have my first
script be a, you know, have to

955
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:05,200
work with an asshole.
And he's like, well, he is a

956
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:07,120
good person.
Script sounds cool.

957
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,920
Send me it when you're done and
I'll work on it with you.

958
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:12,880
When it's ready, I'll introduce
you to Jordan Puke.

959
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:16,880
Wow, that's a heck of a heck of
a connection.

960
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:19,320
Right.
Yeah, very.

961
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:20,000
Cool.
And it was.

962
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,960
And so I finally figured out
also what my problem with

963
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:24,440
pitching is.
I don't have a problem pitching

964
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:26,160
if it's a conversational type
thing.

965
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,720
I have a problem when it's like
an actual like formal pitch

966
00:53:29,720 --> 00:53:32,240
session.
Yeah, because there's a pressure

967
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:36,120
and I don't like, and it's
because of this whole, well, why

968
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,880
would they want a Batman movie?
It's not good enough thing.

969
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,560
Well, Alexandra, thank you for
sharing all this.

970
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:48,120
Congratulations on your wins and
I'm I'm, I'm excited for you

971
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:49,520
this, that last part of your
share.

972
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:52,080
That's pretty exciting as well.
And there's something I just

973
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,440
wrote down that I wanted to make
sure hold on, give me a second

974
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:56,360
because I really wanted to.
There were two things.

975
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,360
One was Yvonne.
Oh, I did want to mention since

976
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:02,560
she brought up Dominic and
having him as a guest on her

977
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:05,640
podcast.
Dominic will be hosting next

978
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:07,720
week.
He will be leading the

979
00:54:07,720 --> 00:54:10,080
conversation.
I believe it's next Wednesday.

980
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:14,480
That could certainly change, but
he is committed to hosting and

981
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:16,880
we are going to do, and this is
probably something Jackie, you

982
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:18,640
may want to try to be a part of
as well.

983
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,240
He's going to host a room all
around mental health.

984
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:26,200
And as some of you know, he's
got he's got his new podcast

985
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,840
coming out later this month all
around mental health.

986
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:31,960
So I thought how appropriate.
Let's let's have him lead the

987
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,200
charge and it's mental health
awareness month this month as.

988
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:36,960
Well, I will definitely be
there.

989
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:40,160
Yeah, great, great.
I believe May 7th is when he

990
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:43,800
wanted to to do this, so stay
tuned and the gang will keep

991
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:48,600
everyone posted all throughout
next week and the week after.

992
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:51,280
As far as the different topics
and conversations.

993
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:55,400
We're planning while I'm away so
there will be rooms every day

994
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:59,440
while I'm away.
So the show must go on, as they

995
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,960
say, Janae.
So the mice won't be playing it

996
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:04,560
with all the cats away.
That's right, that's the mice

997
00:55:04,560 --> 00:55:06,120
will be playing, that's for
sure.

998
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:10,360
Janae, good morning again.
Please share a win and a goal

999
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:12,760
with us.
Good morning.

1000
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,720
Thanks Joanne for sharing that
you had a awesome guest on the

1001
00:55:15,720 --> 00:55:17,360
show that reminded me of my
wind.

1002
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,440
I had three amazing guests this
week.

1003
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,400
Filmer Shawn wrote the book
Unforgettable.

1004
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:29,320
He writes books about events.
He's been running the social

1005
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:32,720
media marketing world event for
the past 11 plus years.

1006
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:35,120
So he's a guest, shared some
really cool things.

1007
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:40,640
I also had Justin Moore of the
book sponsor Magnet, and I know

1008
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:44,320
we talked about sponsorship a
lot earlier in the weeks.

1009
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:47,800
And so that would be a really
great book for anybody to read.

1010
00:55:48,240 --> 00:55:50,680
And the podcast is going to come
out, you know, in a few weeks.

1011
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:52,280
That was an amazing
conversation.

1012
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:56,000
He kind of blew my mind because
I'd never thought about bringing

1013
00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:59,520
sponsorship to my show.
And he's like, here's how you

1014
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:02,120
like pick a name.
And he gave me a live example

1015
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:05,040
and it's just blew my mind.
I've heard a lot of good things

1016
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:09,640
about Justin, my friend, and I'm
sure you know Anna Xavier and

1017
00:56:09,800 --> 00:56:13,600
she had him on her show as well.
And she was telling me, Mark,

1018
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:15,720
you got to get him on the
podcasting morning check because

1019
00:56:15,720 --> 00:56:19,400
I think he'll, he'll have a lot
of value for this community.

1020
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:23,560
He's going to crush it.
And the last one was Qasim

1021
00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:27,360
Taslam.
He's a 7-8 figure exit serial

1022
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:31,200
entrepreneur.
Give me really amazing advice

1023
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:35,360
and about letting go.
That's something that we have

1024
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:40,200
really hard trouble as
podcasters is letting go of the

1025
00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:44,360
different aspects of podcasting
like production production, like

1026
00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:47,680
there's so many different
elements and so he talked some

1027
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:51,160
really cool things some other
wins outside of the podcast

1028
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:54,880
around the business space is
been getting a lot of referrals

1029
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:58,280
for people with their home
studio help and I'm like wow,

1030
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:01,800
I've maybe I've arrived, maybe I
still have ways to go.

1031
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:06,080
So that was a, I felt like a
really great win and where I'm

1032
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:09,160
going.
And the goal for next week is to

1033
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:13,360
continue putting the word out
and continue to teach and

1034
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,080
inspire people about home
studios.

1035
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:17,480
Thanks so much.
You're welcome, Janae.

1036
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:20,680
And yeah, I, I I'm in the camp.
Yes.

1037
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:24,800
That you have arrived.
I and I, I want to stop just for

1038
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:30,640
a second to say, you know, I see
you Janae and you are making

1039
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:33,920
your rounds through all
different podcasting communities

1040
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:38,040
and really showing up for those
communities wherever you go.

1041
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:42,720
I, you, you pour in value, you
participate especially here in

1042
00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:46,920
our conversations, but I see you
on social media on different, in

1043
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:50,080
different groups pouring in that
value.

1044
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:54,520
So I am not surprised whatsoever
to hear that you're getting lots

1045
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:56,720
of referrals these days.
This is what it's all about.

1046
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:59,040
It's putting in.
That's that why we talk about

1047
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:03,800
consistency and you are
certainly showing up constantly

1048
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:08,760
consistently for other people.
So it's very cool to see that

1049
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,440
it's being repaid and now you're
getting those referrals.

1050
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:15,160
Congratulations, Janae.
Thanks so much, Freddie.

1051
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,560
You're welcome, Billy.
Go for it.

1052
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:23,600
A win and a goal please.
So my win is we have signed up

1053
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:26,840
lease on a property in Puerto
Rico as of yesterday, I think

1054
00:58:26,840 --> 00:58:30,440
officially.
So that was and it, it was a

1055
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:33,760
long drawn out process, but it
was the first house we looked

1056
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:35,560
at.
We fell in love with it, had a

1057
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:40,080
line of like 10 people and then
we gave up on it and we were

1058
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:42,600
looking at some other properties
and then they called us back and

1059
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:46,040
said, hey, actually it is
available and you're the next on

1060
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:47,240
the list.
Nice.

1061
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:50,000
Don't know what happened in
those two weeks, but we we

1062
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:54,120
solidified that.
So my goal is just to continue

1063
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:57,680
the moving process and try to
rest.

1064
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,040
I'm exhausted, but I'm going to
try to make it happen.

1065
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:04,720
Hey, Billy.
Your life sounds like what is it

1066
00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:06,280
international?
What is it?

1067
00:59:06,280 --> 00:59:08,960
House Hunters International and
you said that I don't know why

1068
00:59:09,440 --> 00:59:11,960
he's.
A If he's a content creator and

1069
00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:15,440
he's a graphic artist, they.
Want a property for only one?

1070
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:21,160
$1000 a month.
Congratulations.

1071
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:26,880
If I had a dollar for every time
I've heard that exact line in

1072
00:59:26,880 --> 00:59:31,040
the last two weeks that we've
been doing this process, I would

1073
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:34,600
I would take us all out on a
private yacht fast.

1074
00:59:34,800 --> 00:59:35,280
Cubans.
Yeah.

1075
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,280
And I always thought I was
saying original.

1076
00:59:37,720 --> 00:59:40,000
That and more will be next week
when Mark is gone.

1077
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:41,800
That's right.
Oh, boy.

1078
00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:44,040
That's right.
Well, congratulations, Billy,

1079
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:46,800
the awesome to hear.
And yeah, it sounds like you

1080
00:59:46,800 --> 00:59:49,520
also accomplished your goal for
the week because last week you

1081
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:51,920
said you want to survive the
moving process and continue

1082
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:54,000
moving the needle forward.
Sounds like you did that.

1083
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:56,360
Congratulations there.
All right, we're going to do

1084
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:58,760
rapid fire.
I will wrap up with some

1085
00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:02,800
heartfelt winds of my own.
And a goal maybe as well.

1086
01:00:03,160 --> 01:00:07,000
But first I'm just going to ask
rapid fire to our team, Dr.

1087
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:12,320
Ashley, Amanda, Sid and Alex
just share some wins, a win with

1088
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:13,920
us.
And if you want to share a goal

1089
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:16,280
for your week, go ahead and do
that and then just pass the

1090
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:18,400
baton to the person next to you
on stage.

1091
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:24,200
Go ahead, Dr. OK, so my win for
the week is that I did a

1092
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:28,920
presentation in a a community of
a female entrepreneurship

1093
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:32,520
community yesterday with like 24
slides a whole bit.

1094
01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:35,760
It was a smashing success.
I was so proud of myself.

1095
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:42,200
And then the goal for next week
is, of course, to smash it as a

1096
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:46,520
host of the podcasting morning
chat.

1097
01:00:46,960 --> 01:00:51,440
Thank you, Dr. Go ahead, Ashley.
Awesome Dr. Win for this week.

1098
01:00:51,640 --> 01:00:54,240
I had kind of a tough week.
I made it through.

1099
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:56,400
I'm still here, so that's the
win for the week.

1100
01:00:56,880 --> 01:01:01,280
Goal for the upcoming week is to
refresh my creative space.

1101
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:04,320
It is totally out of control.
There are guitars everywhere,

1102
01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:07,680
there's banjos everywhere,
there's cables everywhere,

1103
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:10,160
there's lights everywhere.
It needs a refresh.

1104
01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:11,960
So that's the goal, to get that
done.

1105
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:13,880
Awesome.
Congratulations.

1106
01:01:13,880 --> 01:01:16,680
Go ahead, Amanda.
My win for the week is Chris and

1107
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:21,280
I exceeded 100,000 audio
downloads for our podcast and

1108
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:23,560
that just felt really good.
I mean, it took a long time to

1109
01:01:23,560 --> 01:01:25,560
get there.
I don't know if that's normal or

1110
01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:27,960
not, but it just felt really,
really good to be able to hit

1111
01:01:27,960 --> 01:01:31,120
that milestone and and celebrate
it this week, Sid.

1112
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:33,400
So I have a couple of wins for
the week.

1113
01:01:33,760 --> 01:01:36,760
My son is home for the summer,
got home last night, which is

1114
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:40,640
great to have him home.
And he enjoyed telling me all

1115
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:43,320
about his summer job last night
and what he's going to be doing

1116
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,160
and how much money he's going to
be making.

1117
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:46,800
So I, yeah, that was actually
really nice.

1118
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:52,640
My second win is that some of
you may have seen my daughter

1119
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:57,200
has been accepted to the Vogue
College of Fashion to do her

1120
01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:02,640
master's degree in London.
So she is moving in early

1121
01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:05,880
September across the pond.
So it's super exciting, but also

1122
01:02:05,880 --> 01:02:07,920
a little bit emotional and sad
at the same time.

1123
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,320
But we're super excited about
her and her journey and where

1124
01:02:11,320 --> 01:02:14,680
she's headed.
And I did not get my goal done

1125
01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:16,760
from last week.
I'm actually, I guess I could

1126
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:18,680
say I did.
I'm doing it today.

1127
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:21,960
So writing my article, which is
due today, I'm writing it today.

1128
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:26,840
And my goals for next week
include journaling.

1129
01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:30,560
I, for whatever reason, just in
April quit journaling for like 3

1130
01:02:30,560 --> 01:02:33,880
weeks and I journaled yesterday.
I thought, OK, today's May the

1131
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:35,560
1st, I'm going to start out the
month right?

1132
01:02:35,560 --> 01:02:39,520
So I have a goal to continue
daily journaling and then my

1133
01:02:39,520 --> 01:02:43,240
second one would be to get 3 new
guests for my podcasts lined up

1134
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:46,080
and scheduled recordings.
So with that.

1135
01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:50,560
Alex Baelish, go for it.
Yes, I got a phone call from Jr.

1136
01:02:50,560 --> 01:02:53,960
who's on The Who comes in here,
and I'm going to be a guest on

1137
01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:56,440
his show.
That was kind of a huge win.

1138
01:02:56,440 --> 01:03:01,320
And on another note, Lucy had
her first lacrosse game, which

1139
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:05,960
took about a year to get done
because to set up a nonprofit

1140
01:03:05,960 --> 01:03:07,960
and it's been a whole town wide
thing.

1141
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:12,880
Goals for next week is just to
help post and maybe do a couple

1142
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:14,240
episodes.
Awesome.

1143
01:03:14,480 --> 01:03:18,160
Thank you Alex, and thank you to
all of our team for sharing your

1144
01:03:18,160 --> 01:03:24,080
goals and wins from this week.
For me, clearly the completion

1145
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:28,520
of my Improv One O 1 classes
with a showcase, that was a huge

1146
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,240
win for me.
I am still riding high on that.

1147
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:36,720
Really glad I did it.
I really, I've rediscovered my

1148
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:40,840
love for being on a stage in
that capacity and look looking

1149
01:03:40,840 --> 01:03:46,640
forward to continuing that.
Another win is, well, my win

1150
01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:49,960
will be that I'm going to be
packed for my trip to Europe.

1151
01:03:50,320 --> 01:03:54,760
I have not packed yet and I'm
supposed to leave town today for

1152
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:57,920
DC and then fly out on Monday.
So wish me luck there.

1153
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:03,440
But I will get that done.
And I will say that probably my

1154
01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:06,440
biggest win this week and I was
acknowledging it last night with

1155
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:10,400
my to my wife.
What an awesome, amazing group

1156
01:04:10,400 --> 01:04:14,440
of people that I have
surrounding me on the podcasting

1157
01:04:14,440 --> 01:04:17,400
morning chat.
The, the, the leadership team

1158
01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:23,840
here is happily taking the reins
and making, I'll just, I don't

1159
01:04:23,840 --> 01:04:27,920
care making shit happen.
I helped get that ball rolling

1160
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:32,760
by asking for help and I set up
a a schedule based on people's

1161
01:04:32,760 --> 01:04:35,520
availability.
And I know now that behind the

1162
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:39,600
scenes, everyone's just running
with it, planning it, really

1163
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:43,400
putting a lot of love, thought
and care into the next two weeks

1164
01:04:43,400 --> 01:04:47,200
of shows.
And I am eternally grateful not

1165
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:50,280
just for that, but for the
ongoing support of this

1166
01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:52,640
leadership team.
You don't have to do this.

1167
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:56,720
You don't have to be here, yet
you continue to do so.

1168
01:04:57,000 --> 01:05:00,920
And that means everything to me.
So thank you.

1169
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:07,440
I am thrilled to be taking this
break and knowing that I have

1170
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:13,600
more than capable people taking
it over as I brush this tear off

1171
01:05:13,600 --> 01:05:17,320
my face.
Thank you thank you all really

1172
01:05:17,840 --> 01:05:23,240
means the world keep keep things
going and I will absolutely pop

1173
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:27,880
in on occasion when I can just
to say hello not to take over

1174
01:05:27,960 --> 01:05:31,040
but just to pop in and say hi
cuz I will miss all of you

1175
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:36,360
dearly while I'm gone so with.
You know, Mark, you can, you can

1176
01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:40,520
always just take us with you
just like put us in the, you can

1177
01:05:40,520 --> 01:05:44,320
put us in in your suitcase, no
problem.

1178
01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:47,320
I'm just putting that out.
Sure, if you can make it here to

1179
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:50,600
Asheville before I leave town,
then you I'll squeeze.

1180
01:05:50,600 --> 01:05:52,680
Dude I'm like 2 hours away like
I got.

1181
01:05:52,760 --> 01:05:55,640
You OK?
We can try it.

1182
01:05:56,880 --> 01:05:59,920
All right, gang, thank you again
for another awesome week of

1183
01:05:59,920 --> 01:06:02,080
conversations.
Looking forward to hearing what

1184
01:06:02,080 --> 01:06:04,360
you all do in the next two
weeks.

1185
01:06:04,360 --> 01:06:07,920
By the way, maybe somebody wants
to connect with with Janae and

1186
01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:11,000
see if maybe he can connect us
with Justin Moore and maybe we

1187
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:12,840
can get him to come in while I'm
gone.

1188
01:06:13,120 --> 01:06:14,920
Who's to say we couldn't make
that happen?

1189
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:17,720
So think about that too.
Well, I want to shout out to

1190
01:06:17,720 --> 01:06:19,560
Janae real quick.
We're having the monetization

1191
01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:23,080
podcast on Monday, Janae, So be
sure that you're here on Monday

1192
01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:25,040
because we're going to be
talking all about monetization.

1193
01:06:25,760 --> 01:06:26,880
Awesome.
Very cool.

1194
01:06:26,880 --> 01:06:28,040
There you go.
There Are we going to have

1195
01:06:28,040 --> 01:06:30,680
another sit in Billy?
Are we going to have another sit

1196
01:06:30,680 --> 01:06:32,600
in Billy take over during this
two week?

1197
01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:35,080
We tried.
We tried, but I think Billy's

1198
01:06:35,080 --> 01:06:37,360
got a busy schedule as he's just
shared.

1199
01:06:37,360 --> 01:06:39,520
So I'm not sure.
But if it can happen, I'd love

1200
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:40,200
it.
All right.

1201
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:41,640
Now.
Billy.

1202
01:06:41,920 --> 01:06:44,040
He's got the Boris.
Now that he's an international

1203
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:47,760
superstar, there you go.
All right, I got to go get to

1204
01:06:47,760 --> 01:06:49,440
packing.
I got to go have some breakfast

1205
01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:53,520
before I do that.
So until Monday for for most of

1206
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:59,560
you, and until May 19th,
whatever that Monday is, make it

1207
01:06:59,680 --> 01:07:02,280
a great weekend.
Everybody take care.